Hello! As most of you probably know by know, my boyfriend (RM) and I moved in together exactly 2 weeks ago. I honestly had no idea what to think of living with a boyfriend since it was my first time. I was a little nervous, but those nerves went away as soon as we had our first night together in the apartment. I should preface this “check in” by saying that although we didn’t officially live together, I did spend probably 5 nights a week at his place and we’ve been on multiple weekend getaways and things like that, so my transition may have been a little easier than others. Still, regardless of how prepared we were for the change, change is change and can cause nerves at the beginning or leading up to said change.
The high level verdict? LOVING IT! We laugh all the time when we talk about how seamless that part of the move has been. The first night in a new place or with a new roommate can always feel a little weird, but I have to say- I felt NONE of that. It all just felt normal and right, which, in the midst of all the kitchen renovation chaos, was a really welcomed feeling 😉
When we get together with other people or talk to people in our offices, the topic of conversation generally goes like this:
- How did the move go?
- How is it living with RM/Monique?
Although the move wasn’t the easiest thing (just because we’ve been dealing with renovations), living together has been FUN. I joke that we’ve only fought once, which I consider a big win! And, the fight was only because I got mad that he conveniently went to his mother’s house to “drop a chair off”, which just happened to be at dinner time when his nephew and brother and SIL would be there while I stayed home and peeled layers of nasty contact paper out of the cabinets… I was not a happy camper, but after that little tiff we’ve been smooth sailing!
I think one of the best parts about moving in together is always knowing that we share a “home base”. There’s no more worrying about schedules that don’t align or packing up and living out of bags. We get up, go to work and regardless of what happens after work we know we are both coming home to the same house and that’s a really awesome feeling. RM said it best in a text when he said it feels like a calmness has come over the relationship. I couldn’t agree with that statement more! I was so tired of packing up my breakfast, lunch, work clothes and gym clothes and being the ultimate bag lady. It was exhausting! And figuring out who was going to cook and if I needed to bring my own food over… there’s just none of that anymore and it’s great!
So far, I don’t think I’ve annoyed him that much and he hasn’t really annoyed me. I’m sure that will change soon enough, but for now we are happily living in the honeymoon romantic bliss as a result of the new move. We both pull our own weight around the house and work really well together on tasks, projects and general every day things so even once we are out of the honeymoon stage I think we are still going to have a lot of fun living together.
I’d love to hear from you guys, though, if you live with or have lived with a significant other- what was the easiest part of that transition? Hardest part? Do you annoy your sig. other or get annoyed by them? How do you delegate chores like laundry and taking out the trash and grocery shopping?
Burpees to Bubbly 
Awww so happy for you guys!! Can’t wait to see the new digs! Xoxo
thanks Jess! hopefully soon! xo
My one big piece of advice is that you both learn to pick your battles. I feel that Brad and I get along better when I ignore the many little things that annoy me and I’m sure he does the same. Otherwise, we would be constantly fighting! It’s awesome that you both have your own lives and maintain your independence. At the end of the day, you always come home to each other which is the best feeling! Oh and put family first, both yours and his, because you both love each other’s families and that is a blessing!
thank you!! all of those things are just what I need to work on and remember 🙂
Next month will be my 15th wedding anniversary and we lived together for a few years before getting married so this is one area I’ve got advice for!
It kinda all boils down to 2 things.
1. You love this person. They love you. Don’t forget it.
2. Neither of you are psychic.
As for division of labor stuff? We have periodic “state of the union” sit downs. In the early years they were more often, now it’s just every few years. That’s when you hash out who does what and what’s working or not working. These go a lot easier if you start now, and not mad, than if you wait til one or both of you loses your sht over chores/bills/etc.
Thanks Kristen! #1 is such a good point because I always go off the deep end thinking that a fight or argument= breakup, which is so not the case 🙂 I love the idea of your periodic meetings- that’s a great way to make sure everything is getting done and everyone is happy with how things are going.
Not sure how I missed this post, but I’m so glad I caught it! It’s like you were speaking directly to me… or summarizing my relationship and move in with my boyfriend.
You said it best: “There’s no more worrying about schedules that don’t align or packing up and living out of bags. We get up, go to work and regardless of what happens after work we know we are both coming home to the same house and that’s a really awesome feeling.” — YES!! It’s the BEST feeling when you know that no matter how crappy a day you have, no matter the weather, no matter what, you have someone who loves you who you can come home to. It’s just incredible. So happy for you guys! 🙂
YAY!! It really is the best and although I was warned by many people that it would be different and would take some adjusting, we really didn’t experience any of that and the whole thing was so seamless. I’m glad your move went well, too!!