I know some of you are probably shaking your heads going, “ok, Monique. Big deal!”, which is exactly the point of this post! At the start of the summer, I told RM that I wanted to be more spontaneous and plan less and in general, be more easy going and ok with going off schedule. Halfway through the summer, I’ve realized I haven’t really been very successful in accomplishing this. So many nights RM will say “want a glass of wine?” or “I made a pseudo spritzer- want one?” and I politely respond with, “no thank you”.
I will say that *most* of the time I turn down drinks during the week because I really don’t feel like I need or want one. Most of the time I’m getting home late because of teaching or some other fitness event and by the time I shower and sit down to eat, wine is not even close to being on my mind. However, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t turn down drinks sometimes because I didn’t want to drink extra calories. Or because I’ll feel guilty having a drink because my weekly goal Monday through Thursday is usually to not drink alcohol in order to give my body a little break (unless there’s a specified event during the week that will likely result in drinks- girls nights, sporting events, traveling, etc.).
But the thing is, what’s the difference between drinking on a Friday than on a Tuesday? Some Friday’s I don’t feel like a glass of wine but have one anyway because it’s Friday (#becauseFRIDAY)! And everyone drinks on Fridays to celebrate the weekend! Right? Maybe, but does it mean I have to? Nope. I shouldn’t feel like I need to conform to societal “rules” or my own rules instead of tuning into myself and listening to how I’m feeling and what I want on that particular day/time. Which is exactly why on Tuesday night last week, I poured myself a glass of wine after my workout and shower. RM was over, it was HOT and we were grilling. What goes well with all of those things?
What I loved about the whole situation was that I poured and drank the wine because I truly WANTED it, not because RM was having some and I felt like I should join him. Or because it was hot out and “everyone” drinks when it’s hot out. Or because I just finished a killer class and should “reward” myself. And, the best part was that I didn’t feel guilty for “breaking” my “no drinking during the week unless it’s a specified event” rule, but rather I thoroughly enjoyed every damn sip of my Murphy Goode Sauvignon Blanc because, again, I WANTED it.
Being mindful of my body and listening to it is something I really struggle with- taking an unplanned rest day due to sore muscles and being tired, changing my plans to go out to instead stay in, going to the beach instead of doing “Sunday Things”- these are all things that are hard for me because I love plans and following through with plans and crossing things off my list. I like consistency and schedules (can you tell I’m super Type A?! 😉 ). But you know what? Holding myself to these standards- these rules- is not getting me anywhere. It’s not where the “fun” happens or the spontaneity. Those things happen when you go by how you feel. You want a glass of wine on a Tuesday night? Friggen have one- no big deal! You want to go to the movies instead of the gym? Go for it.
Of course, you might not want to get caught up in drinking every night or skipping your workouts, but everything in moderation, right? And when you’re truly feeling something, whether that’s skipping a workout to visit with a friend or having a glass of wine on a Tuesday night, you should tune into yourself- your mind and body- and think about what it’s telling you and why it’s telling you that. Have you been overly sore or over-working yourself at the gym? Did you have a good day at work and want to celebrate? Or maybe a bad day and in need of relaxation? Our bodies know what’s up a lot more than we think, so I urge you to tune in a little more often. When all else fails, have that glass of wine, even if it’s on a Tuesday 😉
Questions for you: Do you drink during the week? Do you set “rules” for yourself and feel guilty if you break them? Are you spontaneous?